OMG! Is that her...you know what?

The constant alert from his cell phone was becoming annoying, I wanted to throw it across the room.  As I begun to say honey you’ve another text coming through…my finger pressed the accept button accidently.  Though I attempt to void my action…what appeared destracted and caught my attention…I thought to myself. OMG! What’s this? OMG, it's a vagina! She sent a picture to my husband of her vagina!...and is that herpes’s outbreak? I’m totally furious, hurt, and confused at the same time….Heck, I don’t even know how to respond appropriately. I mean what is this? Who does this? As I examine the origin of this picture mail.  I find the number and area code gives me some confidence that my husband had never seen this woman before...

Do I have to say that I completely looked through his phone? And why did I do that?Cause not only did I find random pictures of other women vagina’s, breasts, buttocks and masturbation styles, I find that my husband exchanged photos of his penis…my penis… of him masturbating…erect and full body…I 'm in tears and don’t know what to do…

Arbitrary thoughts flooded my mind…In the beginning, I rationalized what I saw with statements like… “Well she is in whatever state, he really didn’t have sex with her”  Then, I thought, these are real people…they are not paid professionals whose job was to take photos and/or play as porn star.  These were everyday women, who may have had her own husband and children.  Still, I had no ideal how to respond to such a betrayal? Or was it betrayal. If he never touched them before…was he cheating? 

Because I had so many questions I'll be honest and report that I didn’t do a thing to address this with my husband. It wasn’t until he sent me the very picture of his penis that he sent to at least a thousand other women that I snapped.

I'm like how dare you? Share what was legally and rightfully mine to every women in the world and expect me to be turned on.  Well, I am not turned on as I matter of fact I don’t really particularly want to look at your limp dick….and I surely don’t want to have sex with it since the world has seen it….

Now, to this day nearly divorced and separated for years I did'nt know how to properly deal with this situation.  I really didn’t know how I felt about the new term they call “Sexting.”  Is it like pornography or not? I haven’t a clue…All I know is that to me it didn’t feel right …Nothing about his choice made me feel as if I was secure in our marriage.

As time has moved along I’m realizing that 'sexting" is a popular activity.  Not for me…I mean maybe I would be interested in sending pictures to my soon to be husband. But to feel comfortable with my husband receiving, seeing and enjoying another women’s picture of her vagina is will not happen.  To me it’s no different then him actually having oral or sexual intercourse and would be considered grounds for divorce.   But again that’s my new found conclusion of this experience. Do you have any thoughts about sexting?